tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8888467463194468789.post1891723737136573094..comments2023-03-26T05:15:01.285-03:00Comments on the other end of the spectrum.: Datingpinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03021125367864652400noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8888467463194468789.post-31815118865219142542009-07-07T14:17:35.226-03:002009-07-07T14:17:35.226-03:00I do not have aspergers and I have to say that dat...I do not have aspergers and I have to say that dating is tough for everyone, aspie or not :) <br /><br />I think almost everyone has some of the feelings that you do while dating.just mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18178410156526182978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8888467463194468789.post-74595255004209183952009-05-30T10:14:56.235-03:002009-05-30T10:14:56.235-03:00It's so amazing how different Aspies are. My point...It's so amazing how different Aspies are. My point of view on this is very different from Gavin's--except for the safety issue, which I agree is the most important thing to remember. Always.<br /><br />1. Except for my ex-husband, I have always had relationships with guys older than I am. I felt that they could understand me better. Having "been there, done that," they had perspective that I didn't. Perhaps it's also the fact that Aspies tend to do better outside of their peer group. I'm not sure. Anyway, my first serious boyfriend was 17 years older than me, the second one was 10 years older than me, and my present husband (and soulmate) is 14 years older than me. <br /><br />2. I don't think you should ever be less particular about who you get involved with, no matter what your age. <br /><br />3. I'm don't think that all men and women have difficulties with compatibility. I have very close friends who are men, and I talk to them as easily as I talk with my close women friends. My husband and I don't have a lot of problems relating to each other, either. I'm an Aspie and he's NT, but it's not a problem. We enjoy our differences and find them interesting.<br /><br />But you know best what will work for you! Don't ever sell yourself short.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8888467463194468789.post-83461482763502814952009-05-30T07:15:46.387-03:002009-05-30T07:15:46.387-03:00The best advice I can give you is to keep trying a...The best advice I can give you is to keep trying and to stick with people about the same age as yourself.<br /><br />It's the advice I'll be giving my kids as well.<br /><br />Why?<br /><br />Because in the late teens and early twenties age group, most people are "beginners" and most couples are quite forgiving of eachother's mistakes. After all, if your similar ages, you and your partner will both be making mistakes all the time anyway.<br /><br />Keep safety paramount, remember that you can get as many "home runs" as you want in your life but once you've made the first, you'll find yourself losing the thrills of first base. (I think that's as obliquely as I can put things). <br /><br />Finally, don't be afraid to say "No". There are plenty of fish in the sea and you've got at least ten years of saying No before you need to be a bit less particular.<br /><br />At some point, you're going to discover that men and women just aren't compatible - really - for some bizarre reason, we're so different that we really don't get along easily. When you start to reach that point, have a read of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". It will help to explain why when you feel upset, it's easier to talk to people of the same gender.<br /><br />good luck.Gavin Bollardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13833941398375568706noreply@blogger.com